Lessons Learnt In 2019

2019, as with any year that has passed, consisted of both high and low moments. At the start of the year I celebrated my 22nd birthday surrounded by friends and family, moved into a one bedroom flat with my boyfriend and got offered a promotion at my current job. I travelled to two new countries, attended seven concerts and visited two new places in the UK. At the end of the year I got offered a Band 5 Physiotherapy job in an excellent NHS Trust.

However, I also had my fair share of lows. As many of you are aware, I suffer from both anxiety and depression and there were definitely moments last year when I was certain that my mental health was never going to get better. Self-doubt also played a large role in 2019 and I thought that I was never going to get offered a Physiotherapy job.

2019 was a year of change, not just physically but mentally too. There were several lessons that I learnt throughout the year that will stay with me in the years to come. I have chosen five of the most important lessons that I learnt last year to share below and Chloe, who this post is in collaboration with, will be sharing her most important five lessons that she learnt last year on her blog too.

You will never feel ready

It will always feel as if there is more you could, should, want or need to do, however, sometimes you just have to accept that you have done your best and move on. Perfection is a hard skill to unlearn but sometimes it is necessary for progression to occur. I put off applying for a Physiotherapy job for several months because I was convinced that there was going to be a point when a switch would flick in my mind and suddenly I would be ready to start applying but honestly sometimes you have to trust that you are ready, even when you do not feel like you are.

Happiness is not for sale

Happiness cannot be found in material items that you purchase in a shop. Material items may fill the void temporarily but ultimately, the feeling will pass and you will be left feeling empty again, searching for something else to fill the void.

There is no one-size-fits-all approach to wellness

We are surrounded by information with regards to wellness from medical professionals to personal trainers to nutritionists, all who will tell you that their approach to wellness is the best and the most effective. But do we truly believe that one diet or exercise programme can work in the same way for everyone?! Especially when considering food allergies and intolerances, can we safely suggest that one diet is going to help everyone feel their best?! 2019 was a year of experimentation with regards to wellness, finding out what diet and exercise programme works best for me, regardless of what works best for those around me.

One of the best ways to learn is to simply start

I am definitely guilty of procrastinating on learning a new skill because I am afraid of looking stupid. But the truth is that everyone was a beginner at one point and if you never start to learn, then you will never find out whether this is a skill you can master. We are fortunate enough to have a wealth of information at our fingertips if one is only brave enough to start.

Mental illness truly is invisible

Being a sufferer of both anxiety and depression, I am aware of the symptoms that I experience and the coping mechanisms that I use. These symptoms and coping mechanisms are not invisible unlike the illness and sometimes I feel as if everyone must know about my struggle with my mental health. But when someone I saw on an almost daily basis took their life earlier this year, I realised just how invisible mental illness and its symptoms truly are. We are all so worried about ourselves and what we look like to those around us that we do not notice other people’s coping mechanisms. This highlights just how important it is to take care of those around you as they truly might be fighting a battle you know nothing about.

What is the biggest lesson you learnt in 2019?

27 comments

  1. I absolutely adored collaborating with you gorgeous, we so need to do it again sometime!! I loved reading this and for sharing your story with us! I am sorry to hear you had some down moments in 2019, but its so important that we learn from that. Sending lots of love and happiness your way for this year!xx

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  2. Lovelovelove the idea for this post – these are some of my favourites to read and my favourites to make, I always love hearing people’s “lessons” as such – these are some super wise words from you as always. Thank you for writing this! xx

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  3. It’s so nice to read posts like this – it really shows how you’re working towards bettering yourself and also looking out for others. Mental health and its symptoms really are invisible, hopefully 2020 will be the year we tackle the stigma of mental health and collectively work towards preventing these types of outcomes. We’re all in this together!
    Wishing you all the best for 2020, smash it girl!! xxx

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  4. I’ve learnt that its ok to not be ok and to accept that. And to open up to people I’m close with on how I’m feeling and when I have my down days. And to think more positive vibes and not negatives ❤ xxxx

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  5. “Mental illness truly is invisible”

    This is sad yet so, so true. It really resonated with me for some reason. I think we – as humans – don’t pay attention to little details enough. Like you said, we are all sometimes a little too self-involved to truly notice signs that a person might be fighting their own battle on the inside. And, mental illness can also be hidden very well. I certainly am guilty of hiding most of it and only very few people know that I suffer from anxiety. I do this as a way to cope on an everyday basis but there is a part of me that does this because I sometimes feel ashamed. Like there’s something wrong with me or I could be a burden to my friends and family if I truly let them in on how I have *really* been.

    Lovely, thought – provoking post, Hannah! xx

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    • Thank you. I am definitely guilty of hiding my own mental illness, even with those who know I suffer with a mental illness. I think there definitely was/is a stigma with showing weakness and it is so hard to push against this and tell people that you are not okay. I often find myself telling people I do not feel physically well rather than mentally just because it is so much more accepted by society. But I am trying to get over this and tell the truth because by telling the truth, I am helping to normalize mental illness.
      I feel like I always just spurt out words whenever I reply to your comments or posts so hope all of the above makes sense.
      Thanks for reading as always. xx

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      • First of all, I love hearing your thoughts on different topics, so spurt away! (always makes sense as well haha)

        YES! What you wrote about there being a stigma is so true. I think we are slowly becoming a society in which mental illness is more accepted. For example, I love that seeking therepeutic help is being normalised – some of my older relatives would certainly see it as a “weakness” to even seek out help. In that way, I do think we are evolving. But as individuals, I do think that we still battle a lot of feelings and expectations attached to our mental illnesses. And so it is easier to conceal the truth, as a way of not dealing with it or out of fear that one will be judged.

        But I completely agree and applaud you for trying to tell the truth about what you’re really going through more often, I am definitely going to try more as well! It’s so weird but I never really thought about it that way – that by being more open and honest, we play a role in shaping how society views mental illness in the future xx

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  6. okay first, that dress is SO CUTE! i love that you shared that you had highs & lows 💛 love what you said about wellness! also SO true that we are all fighting battles that others might not be aware of. THANK YOU for sharing this & being so open & honest.

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