Sophie Rosie, one of my favourite lifestyle bloggers, recently published a post titled ‘I’m neglecting the basics of self-care, but I just can’t snap myself out of it.’ In the post, Sophie talks about how she’s been feeling lethargic and lacking in motivation recently, to the point where even everyday self-care tasks are a struggle. Reading this was quite a shock to me because Sophie has always presented as a very positive and motivated person through her social media. It got me thinking about just how easy it is to give off the impression that everything is okay, when actually you’re falling apart.
As someone who suffers from depression, I’m all too familiar with the feeling that you’re not okay but not wanting anyone else to know that you’re not okay. For me, I see it as a sign of weakness and I don’t want to be burden to my friends and family. Sometimes it’s easier to plaster a smile on your face and pretend everything is okay than to explain the thoughts currently clouding your head. It’s more socially acceptable to call in sick with the flu than to call in sick because you’re having a bad mental health day and cannot get out of bed. But with as many as 1 in 4 people suffering with a mental illness, is this really acceptable?!?
One of the most common questions asked in conversation is “How are you?” and yet we are all still oblivious to each other’s problems. Maybe it’s because of politeness or through fear of being a burden, but no one ever answers that question honestly. Either that or I’m the only person in this world who is not okay.
Sometimes when I’m at my lowest, all I want is someone to ask me if I’m okay. Just that one question can prove to me that I am loved and cared about at a time when I don’t feel it.
So this is me asking if you’re okay. Truly okay. If you need an ear to listen or a shoulder to cry on, know that I am here. Maybe if we all start talking about how we’re really feeling, we can stop struggling in silence and start healing together.
Always remember, it’s okay to not be okay, but know that one day, it will be okay.